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Happiness Is An Illusion

Steve Rowe

Happiness as we know it is an illusionThe moment you ‘try’ to be happyYou’ve already defeated yourselfYou’re carrying something that can be taken away from youTragedy strikes and is made worseBecause your illusion of happiness can’t be maintainedThere’s no one more annoying than the idiot wearing the ‘happy’ maskTelling everyone they’re happy and that everyone else should be like themAn idiot with a mask Life spontaneously occursMoment to momentSometimes it’s upSometimes it’s downIf you have no expectation of eitherThe feelings are genuineIf you expect one or the otherOr dwell on eitherYou are suffering unnecessarily I’m not happyBut I’m not unhappyI … Continue reading Happiness Is An Illusion

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What Is Masculinity?

Steve Rowe

What Is Masculinity? A while back I wrote a post on femininity as I felt that a lot of posts on the subject at the time missed the mark. I’ll put a link to it in the comments. It has caused a few people to ask me to write one about masculinity, particularly after the ‘manosphere’ TV programme. In the pagan and Wicca world the masculine is born from the goddess at the winter solstice, reaches full power in the summer, and sacrifices himself in the autumn to ensure the fertility of the earth. He is Lord of the Underworld … Continue reading What Is Masculinity?

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Never Say “It Can’t Get Any Worse”….

Steve Rowe

Never say “it can’t get any worse than this”… After my knee replacements I had continuous infections and had to have 25 surgeries with 3 life threatening sepsis attacks. It thought it couldn’t get worse. It did. My leg had to be amputated. Surely it couldn’t get worse? It did. I got cancer. That had to be the bottom, it couldn’t get worse than that. The bottom fell out. My wife of 43 years died suddenly. Every time I thought it can’t get any worse than this….. it did. Each time it left me empty, hollow, when everything had been … Continue reading Never Say “It Can’t Get Any Worse”….

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The Best Way To Start Tai Chi

Steve Rowe

The best way to start in any martial art and particularly Tai Chi is with posture and breathing exercises. Good posture gets rid of excess tension and allows for deep breathing, balance and mobility. Deep breathing calms the body, emotions and mind. When the mind follows the breath, the energy moves with it. This brings about a state of mindfulness and the ability to manipulate energy. In my Tai Chi this is then the foundation for qigong exercises, forms and push hands, done ‘monk style’ for self healing, and then taken into applications and weapons ‘warrior style’ for further health, … Continue reading The Best Way To Start Tai Chi

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Stop Saying Yes…

Steve Rowe

It’s too easy to say yes to everyone. Being a self employed martial art instructor you start by saying yes to everyone.Everyone that wants you teach classesEveryone that wants a private lessonEveryone that wants you to attend or teach at an eventEveryone that wants to feature you on a podcast or in a magazineEveryone that wants to ‘network’ or visit you You’re subject to their flattery. You feel vulnerable. You feel inadequate. You’re prey to the business advisors who fill you with FOMO. Gradually you hone your skills in all areas and have to take control of your time and … Continue reading Stop Saying Yes…

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2027 Shi Kon Tai Chi Coaching Programme

Steve Rowe

No Previous Experience Necessary.This one day a month for 10 months programme will be taught personally by Steve Rowe 9th Dan and his team of assistants, Steve is an internationally renowned Tai Chi teacher, Chairman and founder of Shi Kon Martial Arts International.  The programme has been running for 10 years and has qualified over a 120 coaches, it is designed to certificate and give Tai Chi Students the ability to teach Tai Chi and run and administer a club to a basic level standard. Participants will be registered with Shi Kon Martial Arts International Association and the British Council … Continue reading 2027 Shi Kon Tai Chi Coaching Programme

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Psychic Vampires

Steve Rowe

Watch out for toxic people. Often they try to ingratiate themselves into your life very quickly, being over friendly and start by doing you favours you never asked for. They will begin by ‘bigging you up’ with exaggerated titles like ‘master’ ‘shihan’ and so on to get reflected glory. When they don’t get what they want (grades, certificates, acknowledgement and recognition for example) they start blaming you for everything that’s wrong in their life usually exaggerating or downright lying. You need to recognise these signs as soon as possible and cut them out whatever the cost. Others are the negatives, … Continue reading Psychic Vampires

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I Don’t Want Be Here Anymore

Steve Rowe

I read this by Abhisake Dutta and it really resonated with me because so few people get this: And if you’ve ever thought, “I don’t want to be here anymore,”please hear this: That thought is not a verdict.It’s a signal. Something in you is asking for care, not erasure. And the fact that you said it out loud? That means a part of you still wants help. And that part matters. “That doesn’t mean you want to disappear,” she said.“It means you’re exhausted from enduring.” And something inside me finally exhaled. She explained that sometimes the body doesn’t want to … Continue reading I Don’t Want Be Here Anymore

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Emotional Balloons

Steve Rowe

Life changes, what you were yesterday, you’re not today, love, relationships, friendships all change. People die, pets die, your health changes, what you used to be able to do, you can’t do now. When Ragnor Lothbrok was in a boat with his sons going to war, one turned to look back to his mother on the dock and Ragnor turned his head back around and said “don’t look back, you’re not going that way”, good advice. If my mind inadvertently strays that way I imagine holding the strings to all the balloons of my past and let them go one … Continue reading Emotional Balloons

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Pain & Fatigue

Steve Rowe

You can’t understand if you haven’t been there.You need to walk a mile in their shoes.Or shoe.Or wheel if you can’t walk.You wake up more exhausted and in more pain than you went to bed.Too exhausted or in too much pain to shower or bath.Nausea means you feel like you’re moving when you’re still.Electric lights hurt your brain.Flashing lights and movement give you vertigo.Loud noises hurt your ears.Clothes hurt your skin, any touch is painful.Food hurts your stomach.Any medication has side effects that can make it worse.Pity hurts.Helpful suggestions hurt.Help not requested hurts.Most give up trying to get government help, … Continue reading Pain & Fatigue