Know the difference! So called ‘friends and family’ who only like you when you do what they want and turn on you when you don’t are not ‘friends or family’. Dump them. Real friends and family let you be who you are and support you to grow and when you’re down. You’d think that was obvious. Yet I constantly watch people who are having the knife twisted in their guts by bullying, narcissistic family and so called friends who they cling to because they think that they are ‘family and friends’. Real friends are then discarded because they are seen … Continue reading Stand Up To Abuse!
Why does your dog love you? They say that if you want to know who loves you most, lock your wife and dog in the boot of your car and then see who is most pleased to see you 😀 But seriously, how does your dog love you unconditionally? It’s because he doesn’t see you as separate to him. When he looks at you he sees you as a part of him, that’s why you can have a dog around and ‘meld’ with a non human and experience a time of love and harmony that can help you to see … Continue reading Why Does Your Dog Love You?
How I meditate. As many people have problems and I’ve meditated consistently for many years I thought I’d give some personal information. Deep breathing calms the body, the emotions and the mind. So I sit and allow it to do it’s work. I ‘leave both doors open’ so thoughts and emotions come and go but the breathing will make them subside into stillness. I find my natural breathing pattern by waiting to breathe in until the body does it for me in a natural way from the dantien point. During this time as I’m waiting, I separate from my body … Continue reading How I Meditate
Why do we feel vulnerable? We were quadrupeds that stood up to become bipeds possibly to walk further in the heat to get food but essentially we’re still built like quadrupeds. This means that we face the world and others with our ‘underbelly’. That’s our vulnerability. To understand this is important, we naturally have a soft front and a strong back and can use this to our advantage. Meet the world with your empowered ‘yin’ front, meet it with courtesy, politeness and a caring, giving, empathic, compassionate front. Just understand that it is supported by a strong back. Train your … Continue reading A Soft Front And A Strong Back
Mindfulness is not something you do for an hour a day it’s something thing you do to reinforce the mindful state for an hour a day. Then during the day you are able to watch your mind and all the decisions you make. We often make decisions mindlessly and based on the the way we have been indoctrinated by others, mindfulness allows us to review our choices and decide from a far more insightful point of view. Mindfulness showed me how to decide based on compassion, when anger arose instead of wanting to hurt or punish someone I could make … Continue reading Mindfulness All Day
Sitting At The Feet Of A Master I feel I need to document this as it’s rapidly deteriorating knowledge. Our world turns on ‘easy access’, ‘easy to learn’, ‘learn quickly’, ‘learn in your own home’ and ‘get results fast’ and there are many businesses and franchises around to fill these needs, it’s not a bad thing, just the way that our culture has indoctrinated us and most people want to fill their ‘needs’ in this way’, often through books videos, online learning and/or from instructors that only have the basic knowledge themselves. Beyond that there is a rapidly disappearing way … Continue reading Sitting At The Feet Of A Master
In Zen they say ‘enter a small door and penetrate deeply’. When you do this on any subject, martial arts, religion or politics for example, you gain an insight and perspective way beyond most other people. You shed the dogma, tribalism and narrow vision that we tend to be indoctrinated with and see with more truth and clarity. At the heart of all these subjects tends to be a simplicity that is so clear that when the dogma and tribalism is removed we wonder how we missed it. At the heart of all religions is empathy, compassion and kindness, the … Continue reading It’s A Matter Of Perspective
Society trains you to fail. That’s how the rich get get richer and the poor get poorer. If you don’t train your mind, body and emotions together, you will fail. If you don’t understand that permanent change takes resolve, effort and time, you will fail. Every day my FB feed is full of 7 day wonders and people thinking that all the ‘miracle’ training methods, diets, and buzz word systems will change their life with a miracle in a short period of time and then they can go back to their shit lifestyle and all will be good. The ‘miracle’ … Continue reading The Key To Success
I’m not spiritual.I’m not evolved or advanced.I’m not a guru.You can judge me more by what I’m not, rather than what I am.I’ve spent most of my life getting rid of things rather than acquiring them.I never really wanted to ‘become’ anything.And I still haven’t got rid of enough.My ‘rough’ South London/ council estate upbringing and culture is still in my body, my avatar, but at least I can see it for what it is.I still have many faults but hopefully I can catch them as they arise.I am still a work in progress, still shedding.All the time we have … Continue reading I Have No Pedestal
Dealing with lockdown anxiety. Find a quiet place.Sit straight and gradually breathe deeper with spaces between the breaths.Never force or stress your breathing.Smile gently.Close your eyes, seal your senses and turn your mind inwards.Use that awareness to go through the body and release any excessive tension.You don’t have to be good at this, just do it.The more you do it, the better you get at it.Enjoy. Continue reading Dealing With Lockdown Anxiety