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A Golden Cage Is Still A Cage

3 monkeys

A Golden cage is still a cage…
If you are an adult,
And someone else tells you what you can and can’t do,
What you can and can’t wear,
Where you can go and who with,
You are a prisoner.

If you have to ask their ‘permission’ to do anything,
When I hear ‘I’d love to go/do/wear that, but my wife/husband/partner won’t let me’,
Or ‘I’ll have to ask the ‘boss’,
All I hear is ‘I am a prisoner and am too scared to free myself’.
There are no bars on their cage and yet their fear is their prison.

We all have priorities and can’t always do what we want,
But who set those priorities?
Who makes the decisions?
Was it a discussion of equals and a mutual decision?
Or did you just yield because you feared the consequences?

Self worth and individual freedom are important.
Many people are victims by their own design.
They are too weak to stand up for their rights,
And as a consequence enslave themselves.
They make themselves a victim,
And make their partner an abuser.

Any good partnership is one of equal respect,
Of mutual support for whatever each partner wants to become,
Where both partners get to fulfil their life’s dream,
And each one enjoys the others growth and success,
Otherwise one is in a cage,
Either of their own making or one of their partner,
Either way it is self abuse or the bullying of a partner,
And wrong.

By Steve Rowe

Poems, Uncategorized

The Softest Touch

steve pray


I am a ghost, a wraith;
Passing through life with the softest touch.
I own nothing and no-one;
Anything bought belongs to the Earth;
And any person loved is completely free.

I am only here to learn;
I stand on the line between life and death;
Free to love, cherish and enjoy;
To embrace pain and suffering;
To understand how one creates the other.

By not blundering, not ‘forcing’;
But stepping back and yielding;
Only using the softest guiding hand;
To bring imbalance back to the Tao.

Stiffness, clumsiness and ego;
Trying to prevent or force intention;
Only bring pain and suffering;
Better to use wisdom and softness;
Understand and gently guide.

By not owning or possessing;
But giving and gently blending and guiding;
We harmonise with life;
And bring peace to ourselves;
To those around us and the world.

By Steve Rowe

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Fighting Yourself

steve pad


In the Martial Arts we often talk about how ‘the biggest opponent we have to fight is the one inside of ourselves’ and that ‘when performing solo moves we must have an opponent in mind’ although I think the statements are self evident  I would like to put the two together and give it a bit of perspective.

We are most likely to die of ill health. A good part of our health is our sanity and happiness, so emotional intelligence is an essential part or our daily training routine. We know how to do this through meditation and mindwork and I’ve already written a lot on the subject. But what about ‘fighting the opponent inside of us’?

When I’m practicing kata or form of any kind, including weapons I envisage the opponent being present and on the end of my techniques, but who is the opponent?  Who do I see?  Do I see someone I don’t like? That wouldn’t be mentally or emotionally healthy. Do I see myself? That would definitely be self destructive.  So who or what do we see or visualise?  Who or what should we recommend to our students to obliterate with their deadly moves?

I see my demons. I see FEAR, I see APATHY, I see ANGER and I destroy them. I give them shape, I make them ugly, I make them people and demons and I defeat them with skill.  I use my mental awareness, focus, sensitivity and intensity, I use my martial strategy, weapons, posture, internal connection, core and spine power to break their structure and take them apart. I kill them. I disembowel them. I cut their heads off.  I smash them to smithereens. I am merciless.  They are my demons and I will not tolerate their presence.

In a sense I am fighting myself but also they are not who I am. They are invaders that will creep in to a mind that is either distracted or unaware, so each training session enables me to root them out and defeat them with a strong, aware, focused, sensitive and intense mind.  We are our habits and need to develop a daily routine that reminds us of how we should and shouldn’t be and a method of defeating those sneaky demons that we might let in when leaving our mind unattended.

So now you know who to fight!