Unfolding

Unfolding. Our true destiny is programmed into us. It is our instincts. In the same way that we have to re-learn the language of our body and energy, we have to learn that of our instincts. Our societal programming and thinking block our ability to listen to them, this is why stillness and silence help us to develop the necessary sensitivity to feel rather than think. When we can do this we get to know who and what we truly are and what we should be doing, developing our own internal locus of power, discovering our true destiny and allowing … Continue reading Unfolding

Belief and Faith

This is an important difference that I think a lot of people miss. If you ‘believe’ something, it means that you don’t know, are going to guess if it’s true and cling to it. You can’t get past the first limited stage of learning. I try to avoid that. If you have ‘faith’ in something it means that you yield to it and let it do its work unhindered. Blind faith is not good, but faith in a tried and tested idea or system means that you won’t get in the way of learning. Faith in a good teacher, a … Continue reading Belief and Faith

Our Inner Animal

Our inner animal. If untrained, when it escapes, it controls us in the wrong way at the wrong time. Just like a puppy it needs to mix socially and be trained, educated and alchemised, the best way to do this is with quality martial arts training from a good teacher. In a good club we let it out to play with the other students for wrestling and play fighting. Club camaraderie is an excellent environment for this to happen. This is how all animals learn to hunt and fight. Any other method (aggressive and fear-mongering clubs and teachers) creates a … Continue reading Our Inner Animal

Overthinking in Meditation

Overthinking in Meditation There’s a lot of advice on how to meditate, the problem can be that if it’s making you think or try too hard it might be getting in the way. It shouldn’t be a burden. Try the opposite and instead of trying to do something – don’t do it. Let go of all the advice and instructions and watch everything pass by without interference or attachment. Treat it like the relief you feel when you had a lot to do but now don’t have to do it, you’ve got time off instead. The only thing you have … Continue reading Overthinking in Meditation

I Don’t Want Be Here Anymore

I read this by Abhisake Dutta and it really resonated with me because so few people get this: And if you’ve ever thought, “I don’t want to be here anymore,”please hear this: That thought is not a verdict.It’s a signal. Something in you is asking for care, not erasure. And the fact that you said it out loud? That means a part of you still wants help. And that part matters. “That doesn’t mean you want to disappear,” she said.“It means you’re exhausted from enduring.” And something inside me finally exhaled. She explained that sometimes the body doesn’t want to … Continue reading I Don’t Want Be Here Anymore

Mindful Training

I teach the opposite. Too many people think that their way is the only way. Everyone is different, and ‘one size to fit all’ is for people that are unable or too lazy to think for themselves. We need to understand ourselves, our body, emotions, how our mind works, and listen to our body, energy, instincts and emotions, set our goals and plan a routine with expert advice if possible on how to achieve them and be prepared to alter it if it isn’t working. An 80 yrs old arthritic sufferer, a 40 yrs old mum, someone rehabilitating from illness … Continue reading Mindful Training

A Better Way In 2026

Let me offer a more permanent solution to all the things you’re about to do and fail at. Don’t diet to look good. Eat to care for your body, the animals and the environment. Don’t punish your body at the gym out of vanity or to please others. Train in a method that heals your body and nourishes your emotions, mind and spirit changing you for the better permanently. Don’t see your club or work as a ‘business’ to make money. See it as value and support for your community enriching your local environment and genuinely helping colleagues and students … Continue reading A Better Way In 2026

Kime and Fajin

Kime and FajinWords are always inadequate and can only point the way to a much deeper meaning. If you say ‘kick’ to a non martial artist, they’d think of kicking a football or a tin can, a martial artist would think of something far deeper and a senior martial artist even deeper still. Translating from one language to another confuses it even more. I often see heated discussion between people looking at the same thing through different windows that can’t see it’s the same. The literal translation of Japanese or Chinese words is insufficient for the martial arts. The word … Continue reading Kime and Fajin

The Coin Of Desire

Someone said the other day that you have to get off your arse, follow your desires and live – or you’re just existing. The thought struck me that sitting still, not being subject to your desires and just existing is actually better. The Buddha said that suffering is borne from desire. When you get to appreciate that desire is the survival mechanism of the body and actually doesn’t belong to you, you can see it objectively instead of being subject to it. Desire is a thirst that can never be fully quenched, it will always want more or go from … Continue reading The Coin Of Desire