Know the difference! So called ‘friends and family’ who only like you when you do what they want and turn on you when you don’t are not ‘friends or family’. Dump them. Real friends and family let you be who you are and support you to grow and when you’re down. You’d think that was obvious. Yet I constantly watch people who are having the knife twisted in their guts by bullying, narcissistic family and so called friends who they cling to because they think that they are ‘family and friends’. Real friends are then discarded because they are seen … Continue reading Stand Up To Abuse!
You think your instructors can’t see behind your BS, your excuses, your mask… but the truth is they can see right into your soul. It’s just polite for the instructor to not reveal what they see, so they smile patiently as they listen to the excuses, the distractions and only help or reveal what they see when appropriate. It’s up to the student to tread the path, to put in the time and effort, to sort out their life and emotions, an instructor has to wait until the time is right to put in their bit. But don’t think for … Continue reading Instructor’s Eye
After 50 years in the martial arts and going through various incarnations of successfully teaching various arts, being one of the first professional instructors and starting one of the first full time centres, growing old and having to use others to teach many classes I’ve learned a bit about teaching and running a full time centre. What’s the biggest secret of success? It’s you. The coach. This point is often glossed over with ‘continued professional development’ like gathering certificates, doing courses, seminars and the like, but neglects the most important part. You need depth, the part that can’t be easily … Continue reading A Successful Martial Arts Coach
Let your body be still Let your mind be still Let your emotions be still Sit straight Breathe deep Let your body calm down Let your mind calm down Let your emotions calm down Just wait Follow your breath Let your mind intensify Let it focus Let it be sensitive…. Ah…. There it is….. Continue reading There It is…
Working in security for many years and in the Fire Service, we used to communicate with radio transmitters. To transmit you would press the button on the microphone with your thumb and to receive you would have to take your … Continue reading Listening Energy…
It’s hard to understand the lightness of the touch of Tai Chi. The perfect balance of yin and yang, of ‘sung’ and peng’ create the touch of an angel. The sink to swallow to ‘float’ mean that there is nothing stopping the ethereal movement, the body of a Tai Chi practitioner appears to have no bones, only the whisper and touch of a soft summer breeze. Felt for, he cannot be touched, like reaching into soft cotton, he is a shade, a wraith, a spirit draped in cloud. Tai Chi is art, the sword like a calligraphers brush, takes on … Continue reading The Lightest Touch
My name is Steve Rowe and I have practiced martial arts for 50 years, I am Chief Instructor to Shi Kon Martial Arts International and have written books, articles for magazines and blogged for many years. There are about 300 … Continue reading Welcome To My Blog
Pick up a stone and hold it in a clenched fist; There are 2 ways to let it go; You can turn your fist palm down and let it go so it drops to the ground; Or you can turn your fist palm upwards and unclench letting it rest in the palm of your hand. People that have been hurt emotionally, Sometimes say they are going to be Buddhist; And practice ‘non-attachment’ so they don’t get hurt again; This is not the Buddhist approach; In fact this is aversion and will bring the same pain as desire. To develop an … Continue reading Letting Go..
Taken from the notes of Chris Gunn as a reminder as to what was covered on the Seminar on the 19th May 2013. I post this on the blog because it’s an excellent reminder to any of my students and anyone in the Martial Arts that there is a straight forward linear path to success with no vague concepts if you’re prepared to put in the work required. It was very kind of Chris to allow these notes to be published. Steve had ended up entitling the Seminar ‘The Path To Success’ to help us determine the right path to … Continue reading The Path To Success
I don’t believe in ‘positive mental attitude’ because to do so implies a negative one. Life just is as it is. Hardship is a challenge and we learn from it and we also benefit from rest and respite to heal. I am a warrior and welcome challenges as they make me stronger and wiser, those that go for an easy life are boring to me. The only way to stop me is to kill me. I don’t need encouragement to win, I’m not that weak, I don’t need medals, certificates or awards as I know exactly what I can and … Continue reading I Don’t Belive In PMA….