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Dealing With Obesity

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No-one will understand the agony of obesity unless you’ve suffered from it.

I posted a while back wondering how everyone had become ‘obese’ according the government.

In my day you were ‘obese’ if your stomach was bigger than your chest;
You were ‘fat’ if your belly hung over your trousers;
Otherwise you were ‘normal’;
Unless you were cadaverous and then you were ‘skinny’.

People that have never had weight problems don’t understand the pain their comments cause. Overweight people know they have a problem every time they look in the mirror or try to buy clothes. They don’t need constant reminding from others, the weight loss moneymakers or the puppet government of big business who fatten people up and then offer ‘miracle’ cures.

Overweight people will hide their pain in humour, but every mindless ‘joke’  or comment from others cuts deep and will be remembered until the day they die. If they could solve their problem by just eating less and moving more, don’t you think they would have done?  The same as a drug addict would ‘just stop taking drugs’ and an alcoholic would ‘just stop drinking’ – it’s not that simple.

People are overweight for a variety of reasons:
Physical disability meaning they cannot move around much.
Illness such as fatigue and immune disease.
Emotional stress resulting in an addiction to food.
Medication that causes obesity.
A genetic disposition towards that body shape.
Ignorance towards their dietary requirements.
Yo yo dieting.

A surgeon’s mistake resulting in 2 life threatening infections, 14 surgeries, powerful drugs and antibiotics that resulted in serious arthritis in  both shoulders, the loss of quadriceps in both legs, one metal knee and one totally fused leg meant constant pain, very little mobility and drugs that increased obesity and damaged gut mobility meant I put on a lot of weight whilst dealing with those problems. I couldn’t lose weight on 1200 calories a day!

Luckily I’m a natural skeptic of big business, the government, ‘miracle cures’, the diet and fitness industry and the general moneymaking machine. Everyone is different and there is no ‘one size fits all’ that the NHS would force on us. I’m vegetarian, my body doesn’t deal with starchy and sugary carbs easily, it doesn’t digest food eaten in the evening well and requires reasonable periods without any food to do it’s work. So I fast between 18 and 20 hours a day, eat low carb foods and eat between midday and 5pm, during my fasting period I only drink water,  black tea and coffee. In 2 months I dropped three and a half stone despite trying every other diet and failing.

I monitor my diet by my general health, energy and inflammation levels, the colour and frequency or my urine, the shape and colour of my faeces and my weight. All have improved.

People suffering from obesity need help and support, not victimisation, vilification and isolation (often hidden in well meaning measures). It’s an illness like any other but like many other ‘hidden’ illnesses needs an individual approach to have any success.

We also need to stop listening to the political and financial profiteers and start looking inwards and studying ourselves, our lifestyle, exercise, our current diet and our genetics to find the answers!

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My Body Is Like My Dog

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My dog is my old friend, when we were young we used to run around and wrestle and for 13 years where ever I’ve been he’s been there with me, at my feet or on my lap. Now his doddery old legs barely carry him and his arthritis and old injuries are a constant nag and need medication but our intertwined lives means that we are still the best of friends and know each others thoughts and emotions.

My body is my oldest friend, for 68 years it’s carried me through 50 years of martial arts and every sensual pleasure and trauma that’s beset me. Now I treat it the same as my old dog, I talk to it every day and the constant pain reminds me of everything we’ve done, the many scars, the arthritic legs and shoulders only cement our long term friendship and remind me of the great life we’ve had together. I couldn’t have done it without him.

Like my dog, I love it and take care of it.

Never punish or hate your oldest friend because it hurts and doesn’t work so well, if you do, you only make yourself suffer….

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Why Are You Ignoring Your Oldest Friend?

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Why are you ignoring your oldest friend?

It’s always been there with you, holding you up in the hardest of times, crying and laughing with you, always supporting you from the ground up – and yet you steadfastly ignore it!

It talks to you all the time, tells you when it wants to exercise, rest, eat, drink, and yet you treat it rudely.

Well STOP IT! And start paying attention.

Your dog doesn’t speak your language and yet you understand everything he says, when he wants attention, feeding, drink, walkies, you treat him well and love him.

You body does the same. In it’s own language, it tells you when it needs attention, feeding, drink, exercise and rest – so why don’t you listen?

Your ego, your vanity, your fears and desires constantly over rule your oldest friend. You hate it, you punish it, in the gym, ‘no pain no gain!’ stuffing it with food that the media pushes on your subliminal desires, forcing it into uncomfortable clothes, painting it and still looking in the mirror and hating it.

Why don’t you listen? The reason is that your ego won’t shut up, it’s either distracted to every shiny object the media pushes toward you or it’s lazy, because you ate the wrong foods, drunk the wrong drinks, exercised the wrong way ands are obsessed with the little electric square you carry around all day and react like Pavlov’s dogs to every chirrup it makes.

How do you change this and listen?

Be still and aware, let your thoughts and feelings subside. Learn to be mindful.

Let your sensitivity grow. Take your mind through every part of your body, with kindness.

Talk to your oldest friend. Ask it how it feels, listen to all the minor aches and pains, because if you wait until it has to shout – it will be major illness.

Treat it with appropriate exercise and rest whilst paying attention to exactly what it needs and is asking for. Your Friend loves to exercise, to play, to have fun, to rest, to be fed, watered, there’s no need to punish it…… ever.

Treat it the same way you treat your oldest friend, it’s always been there for you and the more care you give it, the more it can give you.

 

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